When I first met my now ex wife in 1986, she was a pioneer and seemed to be one of the most versed in WT speak. She answered intelligently and often at all meetings and was held up to the cong as one of THE examples...
1 year after our marriage in 1989, when I wake from the borg trance, we start discussing all our doubts and it comes out that for over TWO YEARS prior to our wedding, she was only going through the motions... she had lost faith in the BORGanziation and Jehovah but found the pain of FREEDOM too hard to bare. the psychological damage of being BORG from the age of five was too powerful for her to overcome on her own... it was only after my departure that she found the ability to break free... infact even after I stopped going she still continued for a while.
I had noticed things while we were dating, but I had attributed them to her medical condition --a condition that was not life threatening but made her feel run down and listless a lot... to the point where she was not putting in her pioneer hours. not one person in the congregation told her to stop pioneering... they all told her to just hang in there and put as many hours as she could and then try to catch up later... the BORG wants its shiney examples for public record, they do not care if they kill you in the processes. after all what is better than to sacrifice your life in the service of Jehovah.
After she stopped going to the meetings the elders came around from time to time, sure that I had corrupted her... little did they know, nor did they care to find out the truth of the matter.
to this day I am sure they blame me for her leaving... she was gone long before I entered the picture, I just gave her the strength to stop the madness.
In case you are wondering why she mentally left-- her mother and father, a local elder, used to come home from fooling the congregation and start beating the hell out of each other.
she, being the good BORG DRONE that she was reported this to the elders when she feared they were on the verge of homocide....
the judgment-- pray together at meals and study the watchtower more.
she nearly committed suicide.
she felt betrayed and left for dead by God....it was a nightmare to live with these violent people who now blamed her for her father having to step down from being an elder
and airing the family dirt.